Since in the 70's we discovered the phases of both female and male desire, we have been investigating much more in this field, but ... Do you really know what the phases of sexuality and desire are ?
Today we know 5 phases of arousal.
Both men and women, we go through the different phases. The only one we can skip, especially us, is the desire phase . We can start a sexual relationship without first feeling the desire, simply for the satisfaction of reaching orgasm.
In any case, it is uncertain, since as the sexual encounter develops, the desire phase begins to appear, consciously or unconsciously.
Perhaps the desire phase is the one with the most differences between men and women . Women more frequently initiate sexual activities without having previously experienced the desire phase. Intimacy with your sexual partner and being able to exercise this stimulus or approach make desire appear together with the excitement phase.
Furthermore, the stimuli that lead to sexual desire are different in men and women . In men, sexual fantasies (internal stimuli) are more frequent than in women. And as for external stimuli, they pay more attention to the context (climate, place, ...) than they do.
Another phase where there is a difference that we cannot ignore is in the orgasm phase. You have surely heard of the multi-orgasmic capacity of women . The problem today is the pressure that both men and women feel to have orgasm in all their sexual relationships. Not all sexual encounters are the same, nor should we have intercourse in all of them, nor are we forced to have orgasm.
I think it is time to talk about those secrets about female sexuality:
A pleasant climate (music, candles, ..), a relaxed atmosphere and a slow start will make no woman resist sex . We cannot forget the importance of context for female sexual desire. Initiating sexual intercourse by directly stroking the genitals is something that men will love but not women.
This does not mean that there should always be special care for the environment, but we must take it into account and take care of sexuality as much as we must take care of other aspects of the couple.
The answer is no , any woman can experience multiple orgasms in the same sexual relationship. But not everyone experiences these pleasures, some have more vaginal orgasms, others are more clitoral, others multi-orgasmic and others anaorgasmic.
We all know the thousands of female excuses for not having sex : my head hurts, I'm tired, not now ...
This fact is closely linked to sexual desire. In women, as we have mentioned before, this phase sometimes does not appear before the sexual encounter.
Although with each passing generation , these excuses are diluted and each time we look more like men and women, we cannot ignore that there will always be differences between them and us. Fortunately, more and more, men are concerned about the pleasure they provide to their partner and women have experienced a sexual liberation that has allowed them to enjoy more of their body and their sex. And this is great news for both genders.
A major driver of sexual desire is prior satisfying sexual experiences. The more sex I have, the more I know myself and my sexual partner, and the more likely I am to have good sex. And these satisfying relationships will be the ones that predispose me to desire more other sexual encounters.
This would explain those stages in which we increase sexual relations and the more we do it the more we want.
Today, there are many authors who differ from this concept. Thanks in part to the finding of the G-spot , carried out by the German gynecologist Ernst Gräfenberg.
The G-spot is on the inside of the vagina . Rivers of ink have been written about whether the orgasm is clitoral or vaginal. There are advocates of the clitoris who claim that the G-spot may be anatomically related to the internal extension of the clitoris along the vaginal canal. Anyway, I am left with the idea that women, in addition to being multi-orgasmic, can have orgasms by stimulating both the clitoris and the vagina and that they are also totally different orgasms and both are wonderful.